When someone has a broken leg, it’s pretty obvious how we can be helpful. We can drive them places, open doors for them, carry their groceries, etc. Concussion is a different kind of injury. It is known as “the invisible injury” because it is not externally obvious to others. There’s no cast, no crutches, and it doesn’t even show up on a CT scan. The individual often struggles with thinking, overstimulation, and fatigue, among other things. Sometimes people aren’t sure what they can do to help. The answers may vary, depending on the individual, but here are some general tips for how to help someone you know who has had a concussion.
Ask if they would like you to go with them to an appointment. Sometimes people become very overwhelmed by the large amount of information they are presented with, and having another set of eyes and ears may be helpful.
Gain their attention and make sure they are looking at you before you speak to them. If possible, let them finish what they were doing. Dividing their attention between two things will likely be unsuccessful. Also understand that it may take the person a minute to switch gears from what they were doing before.
Text them instructions or important information so that they can process it when they are able to focus, rather than telling them in passing or when they cannot write it down.
Provide assistance, but try not to take all responsibility away from the person. For instance, it is okay to remind the person of their appointments, but if they are able to schedule them and check their calendar, this is something they should continue to do. It will be good for their brain to have to pay attention to such things.
Try not to take it personally if they are wanting more alone time or need a break from a conversation. This is very common, as people with concussions often become quickly overloaded and symptomatic. After a while it may be difficult for them to process what you are saying.
Offer to bring them a meal or something else that might make their life a little easier. Many people with concussions are very busy with medical appointments when they aren’t working, which can make it difficult to find the time to cook.
At the Colorado Concussion Clinic, we understand that mild traumatic brain injuries impact not only those who are injured, but those with whom they are closest. There can be frustration on both sides, even if there is a lot of love. You may feel just as overwhelmed as your partner if all of a sudden you are working full time and taking on a majority of the household responsibilities. It can be helpful to see a therapist to address any feelings you may be having and learn effective coping and communication strategies. If your loved one who is injured is open to it, it may also be helpful for you to ask their providers questions about their symptoms or treatment plan. Having a deeper understanding of the injury may help you help not only your loved one, but you as well.
- Ramya Shyam, MS CCC-SLP